So you’ve never heard of a Pure Romance party, or maybe you have but you’ve wondered why would someone do that? Here’s a glimpse into my job, Pure Romance Consultant Extraordinaire. I’m RayleneTaskoski and I’ve been a Pure Romance Consultant for almost 6 years. Prior to becoming a Pure Romance consultant I’d worked in many different fields: day care, secretary, bingo hall worker, secretary, cocktail waitress, secretary, poker dealer, secretary, valet driver, secretary, waitress, and, oh yeah, administrator assistant (secretary). I had also tried my hand at Direct Sales: Avon (age 18), Tupperware (19), Mary Kay (20), and Amway (25). I am also a Born Again Christian since the age of 9 with a minister father (TV/Radio/Races, not pulpit) and a wicked prude mom who is a nurse. I also have three children, all girls, currently aged 13, 21 & 25, not that you’d know it by looking at me, I barely look over thirty. [just let me keep believing it and we’ll be friends.]
So, how did I wind up a Pure Romance consultant? I went to a party. I had attended a ‘sex toy’ party when I was 26 that was absolutely disgusting, vulgar, nasty *shudder* gross, at least to me. It was another 12 years before I would go to one of ‘those parties’ again. Well, I was bribed with Rum Runners to attend that party but that’s neither here nor there. It wasn’t Pure Romance but it was a damned site classier than the first one and I actually learned some things! It got me thinking. I went home and told my husband, ‘what if a woman could be educated about how her body works and why it works that way and how and why to use these products without it being awkward or uncomfortable? I mean, it should be fun and funny but not vulgar, right?’ and he said, ‘mumble mumble mumble go find a company that does that if you think you want to do it.’ That was a lot more than I thought that I’d get out of him! I went searching on the internet for companies that and I fond Pure Romance and I knew immediately that this is what I wanted to do.
People call us because they know that Pure Romance parties are designed to make everyone feel as comfortable as possible. We strive to entertain and educate you and your friends and hopefully that will empower you to take that knowledge home with you and add some spice to your intimate relationship … NOT to shock and awe you and have you rushing home to grab a shower to get the ick off you! (like that first party I went to!) Honestly, a properly done Pure Romance party should be appropriate for the hostess, the hostess’s little sister (over 18, natch), the hostess’ mother, mother-in-law, all her friends and feisty grandmother.
My favorite part of being a consultant is the ‘aha!’ moments that people have (and share, whether you want them to or not), and when girls realize that they are not the only one who has this particular issue! This keeps things fun, and funny…. most of the time. Sometimes there are moments when you hit a nerve and a woman will have an immediate reaction. I was talking once about our enhancement creams and talking about the things that will cause low libido (stress, heart & blood pressure medications, birth control pills, anti-depressants, etc.) and I looked right at this woman and there were tears in her eyes! I asked her if she was ok and she said ‘my doctor didn’t tell me that my blood pressure medication would cause low libido!’ and I jokingly said, ‘did you just think you didn’t love him anymore all of a sudden?’ and she started crying and said “YES!” That’s an ‘aha!’ moment that will I never forget.
At another party I met a woman who was just as stubborn as all get out. She wouldn’t fill out the door prize drawing form, wouldn’t try any of the products that I was passing around, sat with her arms folded throughout the entire party. Sucked the life right out of me, I tell you. When it came time to shop, she was the first one in the ordering room and I was not prepared for what happened. She came into the room, closed the door, leaned back on it and burst into tears. I was stunned. I had no idea what to do! Usually the shopping room is for fun! And laughter! And Shopping! She turns to me and said, “Six years ago, after I had my two boys, my husband decided that we were done having sex. He just wasn’t interested anymore, he didn’t want a divorce, he loves me and loves our family but he has no interest in sex. He moved into another bedroom and we’ve had a sexless marriage ever since.” I was at a loss for words. Certainly MY personality wouldn’t have stood for that! She wanted a toy, but one that was super quiet because she didn’t want him to know. I told her, “If I were you I’d get the loudest biggest jackhammer toy I could find and look right at him as I was heading into the bedroom and say YOU might be done, but I’M not!’” She laughed and relaxed over the few minutes I had with her, but it made me realize how meaningful of job I have.
I’ve had many women contact me weeks after attending a party and thank me for saving their marriages. Just identifying an issue is enough to empower you to change it. Realizing you’re not alone, finding out that there are products to help, or just adding a little spice to a bland but otherwise satisfying sex life can make a huge difference!
There is no ‘best time’ to do a party but my favorite time of year to do Pure Romance parties is around February and March, because of Valentine’s Day and TAX RETURNS! My biggest per person sales are around tax time. I’ve had the craziest biggest orders during this time of year. I’m talking orders around $400 - $500. That’s some big time romance right there! There’s also no ‘best night of the week.’ Everyone wants a weekend party but truthfully my highest attended and highest sales parties are Monday’s and Thursday’s. I find on weekend parties people will find other things to do rather than show up to your party that you carefully planned, decorated and shopped for! [rude, right?!] But their boyfriend or hubby decides they want to go out and it’s ‘later’s baby’ to you!
While food and decorations don’t have to be extravagant at a Pure Romance party, sometimes hostesses will go full on theme crazy! Phallic shaped balloons, candy, cookies, lollipops and, of course, cake. After one particular bachelorette party, the Maid of Honor cut me a specific part of the cake to take home…. Two perfectly round balls. I went home and set it on the counter and my husband came out and asked what I had there and I told him it was a piece of cake from the bachelorette party. He says, ‘that’s an awfully strange shaped cake…’ as he went to cut a slice. I said ‘well, honey, it was a bachelorette party … what part of the cake do you think that was?” As he realized what he was slicing into, the look on his face was priceless!
Ideally, it’s best to do a cocktail hour before the official start time to get your guests there and primed with some light snacks and a signature cocktail so that the consultant can get started right away. Keep the food in a separate area because barbecue chips and strawberry lube don’t taste that great together! Leave the bulk of your food until after the party to keep your guests busy while each person takes turns in the private shopping room. My favorite apps are veggies and dip and any hot cheese dip. Unfortunately, I’ve also recently discovered that I’m lactose intolerant so those dips are just torture for me now. Even just chips and salsa and a bottle of soda is sufficient. There’s no need to break the bank.
Themed cocktails run the gamete with “Pink Panty Droppers” being a popular choice (there are multiple ways to make it. As far as I can tell, if it’s pink, they’re calling it a pink panty dropper!) Anything with Gummy Vodka is popular too! I’ve got one hostess who always had a big bottle for the party and she sneaks a smaller bottle into my tote for me to take home. She knows I won’t drink at the party but I love me some Gummy Vodka, LOL. Keep it simple though and keep your guests hydrated! Having them drink too much too early can lead to some embarrassing moments! An overly inebriated guest might be funny (and, Oh Lord, I have seen some funny ones!)… but it nearly always leads to poor sales and less credit for the hostess.
If you’re looking for a great bachelorette get together or activity to do on a Girls Weekend, consider doing a Pure Romance party. Pure Romance party is the perfect excuse for you and your friends to relax, catch up, have a few laughs, and even act a little silly. Not only is a Pure Romance party is completely free but it’s a great way to get free product for your bachelorette to take on her honeymoon! And because you only have to be over 18 to attend, this is the perfect event for when part of your bridal party isn’t old enough for a pub crawl!
If you’re looking for a small intimate gathering for your bridal party (less than 5 attendees), a Pure Romance party may not be your best bet. Not that small parties can’t be fun, but with a Pure Romance party, the more the merrier. This is one time to let out all the stoppers when it comes to inviting … and encourage guests! Remember, the bachelorette is the big winner here. Not only will she get a percentage of the retail sales towards her own shopping spree, but a smart consultant will also let her friends buy her things from her wish list so she can use her hostess credit on the items she’s keeping secret! And be sure to make the Pure Romance party the main event or have it be much earlier in the day before a planned outing. Having everyone skip the shopping room to get ready for going out doesn’t mean much hostess credit for our bride!
So what does my family think? My girls and husband have never had a problem with it. My dad, the minister, has always believed in what I do. After watching me do a presentation for the SECT Women’s Network he told me that he thought that this was my ministry. I agree. It took my mom a lot longer to come to grips with it. It was the day after my one year anniversary party, I told my mom she either had to come see what it is that I do or keep her mouth shut (she kept saying “that’s disgusting!” every time I would talk about my job). She came to the party and the next day I called my dad and asked what mom thought. He said “she said you give factual information in an amusing way and she’s really proud of you.” Well, what more could you ask for?