Saturday, July 30, 2011

Before you say YES

You know it is coming, your good friend gets engaged and shortly there after you are asked to be part of the bridal party.  Before you say "YES", take a few things into consideration.

  •  You will have to spend money!!  Maybe on something you don't love, and can NEVER wear again.  If you are lucky, you may love it and be able to wear it again but don't count on it.
  • Odds are you will have to work with others.  A bridal party can be a mix of siblings, cousins, childhood friends, roommates & you may not all get along.  Don't allow this to EVER be an issue for the couple getting married.
  • Remember your role in the wedding.  If you are the Maid of Honor or Best Man, you have responsibilities. If you aren't sure what they are, then ASK.  You will be helping put together a shower, or a jack n' jill and bachelor and bachelorette parties.  Other bridal party members should offer their assistance. Help could be offered money wise, time wise, or in a labor sense. 
  • There will be certain weekends, nights and other times that will be designated for the wedding.  It is a given, between engagement parties, the showers, and just helping, there will be times that you.

Be honest with your friends, if you don't have the funds to be a part of the wedding, or you know that your business is sending you on business trip every other month, say something.  Being honest right up front will ease things for everyone!!! Once you say yes, then be the best friend you can be. 

Just a few friendly tips!  :)

Sunday, July 24, 2011

5 things as a planner I've done (and no one knew)

Why this discussions came up, well I'm not 100% sure. Though I'm often doing my best to explain what we planners do beside the normal things. There are always things you just can't plan for 100% but the goal is to be ready for them and do your best for the client.  Here are a quick 5 and stay tuned this week for more.

1.) Late Spring, NYC (hot), both myself and the wonderful catering manager from Josh's catering are attempting to scrub off the glue from where the florist glued down the aisle runner. Mind you we are in an Orthodox Synagogue and most items were priceless.  Even though we had asked them not to glue it down, they still did and within 1/2 hour we got all the spots out.  (Both of us had babies no more than a month old at this time too, so it was a nice bonding moment for us. lol)

2.) One of the shuttle vans became stuck on the dirt road to the wedding venue. This van was blocking other vans from moving up and down the road with ease and had to be unstuck right then and there.  With a bunch of groomsmen on the back giving weight, and 2 up front with me, I helped push it out.  I of course had to kick off my high heels at this moment but it needed to be done.  Nothing better than hearing all the bridesmaid cheer with joy!

3.) Removed advertising from the wedding cake.  I wish I was kidding. On the 3 tiered cake, where the ribbon connected they placed a bakery sticker. With care, I removed the stickers and turned the seams to the back just so no one knew.

4.) Different wedding, 4 tiered cake, and the catering crew is REFUSING to cut and serve the cake.  First they say they weren't paid for this, then they tell me they can't get to the cake since it was tucked into a corner.  In a quick moment, I picked up the WHOLE cake and carried it to a cutting table and proceeded to cut until the catering manager took over.

5.) Dried off 56 chairs due to a spot shower and then placed an umbrella onto each chair for all for all of the guests, just in case. (Yes they needed them, and yes we were able to purchase 56 all black umbrellas from the local WalMart that morning. Okay they weren't all black but pretty damn close)

Stay Tuned for more....

Monday, July 11, 2011

100 years

When it comes to birthdays most of us dread them after a certain age.  Though I'm sure there comes a time where you just don't mind anymore. (Note, that I am not there yet but anyways...) About 8 months or so ago, Ellen asked if I would assist in planning her aunt's 100th birthday.  How could I not say YES!  This is usually a once-in-a-lifetime event, and to top it off, Lena and I share the same birthday.  

We celebrated this past Saturday at the Arbors in Manchester. Lena was surrounded by family, friends and her best friend Barbara who is 95.  These ladies have been friends since they were in their 20's.  Lena may be 100 but shows no real signs of slowing down and I started thinking what would I want to have accomplished if I'm lucky enough to reach 100. 

I'm not looking for fame or fortune, since I feel fortunate enough being able to have a job that I love.  It gives me great joy and I don't see ever really stopping this one side of me. So what else do I want by 100...

Well, I would like to know that I've raised my children to be the best gentlemen they can be.  To have love for life, to never expect to be given anything but appreciative of what they have and I hope they find something that drives them forward in life.  I also hope we will be able to talk with each other (mind you we aren't in real teenage years yet, I'm sure there will be a time I don't wish to speak to, enjoy a lunch or dinner together and I want to see what drives them.  My biggest wish is that I have raised two boys who will be the best of friends to each other, realizing that there will be times they will fight but at the end of the day, they need to make sure they still stand by each other.  I don't want to teach them to compare themselves to each other ever but just enjoy who they will grow up to be. `

In this full life I plan to continue leading means, of course, a set of good friends. I don't need many, just good ones.  I find such great pleasure in sitting around a nice campfire, with margaritas in hand discussing the old times, laughing and just enjoying time off.

I will continue to enjoy helping couples start a new chapter in their lives. I love seeing not only my couples enjoy their wedding but the rest of their lives.  They become Facebook friends, and I love seeing where their married lives take them.  Not sure if it will be Facebook or Google+ by the time I reach 100 but I hope I still understand how to use the programs. 

In these upcoming years I would like to find the best way to carry my phone with me at weddings.  You may think this is odd but most dresses don't have pockets, a fanny pack isn't going to happen so this means the phone in my bra strap most of the time. While I could go with a headset and it clipped somewhere on my body, I don't really want to look like a gap employee.

Last of all, I hope to continue to always know how to love and be loved. :)

So tomorrow I have the pleasure of not only sharing my birthday with Lena who turns 100 but also with my father.  There has never been a time I didn't enjoy sharing my birthday with him. (Okay I think when he turned 68 and my mother planned an army camouflage party, but besides that one time, I've always loved it)  I plan on looking at each birthday as a moment to reflect, not regret and to see what I can accomplish next. 

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Ocean Love

We meet them all, the ones who hate to plan, and the ones that love to plan!  Jessica was our girl who LOVED to plan.  She had planning her wedding since the day she knew in her heart that Kris was the one and maybe not openly plan, but I know she was taking notes.  

Jessica and Kris were married on May 21st of this year. We couldn't have asked for a better day and seeing how they partied throughout the entire night, I'm sure no one wanted the day to end. 

Bride created this for a ring bearer!

While with every wedding there are a few ups and downs ( a missing cake, a few broken vases but everything was fixed) , it was a real pleasure to see Jessica and Kris, along with their friends and families focus on the real reason they were there.  Their love!!  Everything else was a bonus, a BIG FUN FILLED BONUS but they never lost focus on the fact that they were started a life together.  
Jessica asked for a custom cake stand and this we did!  

Mr. & Mrs

One of my favorites, a very helpful groomsman!

Our custom created card box for Jessica.

Location: Ocean Beach, New London
Gowns: Melissa Ashley Brides
Flowers: Stylish Blooms
Invitations: estoPrints (Jessica joined and heads up our invitation team due to her amazing talent)
Photography: Peter Black from Wedding Bells Photography
Planning & Design:  Jessica and ESTOccasions
Make Up: Beauty Bar
Cakes: Chocolate Rose
DJ: Jamkat Entertainment

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Pic Pick

Pic Pick

Which would you pick to wear if you had to  (yes someone is forcing you to wear to wear one of them) 



Then again maybe you would wear both.  I think I would. :)